Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Blow The Lid Off Your Salary

It’s payday Friday and your boss just walked into the office with a big box of envelopes under his arm. When he reaches your cubicle he drops your paycheck on your desk and yells, “Three K! Good going, buddy!”

Unless you’re working for a paper company in Scranton, this likely never happens to you. But suppose your boss does broadcast your salary for everyone to hear, how would it make you feel?

Probably uncomfortable.

In civilised society, talking about your wage is a big taboo. Many of us would rather reveal our favourite sex position than being open about what we earn.

So why do we feel more comfortable exposing our sex lives than our pay?

Because confessing how we like our nookie doesn’t make our coworkers want to spit in our coffee.

And that’s precisely where our thinking goes wrong. Even if you earn more money than your workmates, having a publicly known salary won’t make your colleagues hate you.

If your peers are going to be angry at someone, it’ll be your boss. Which is why your boss loves it when you keep your income a secret.

What’s more, by keeping your monthly riches to yourself, employers can save money when hiring and promoting staff.

Have you ever negotiated for your salary? Then you know how easy it is for you to be ripped off.

You see, the head honcho knows exactly who is on the payroll for how much. And by leaving you in the dark about everyone’s meal ticket, he only needs to offer you an amount that doesn’t offend you.

If you don’t have all the information, you can be taken for a ride. Suddenly equally qualified people can earn dramatically different salaries.

The punchline?

Don’t keep your income a secret from your co-workers. That only pushes your own wages down.

Openness is the only way to earning what you’re worth.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach