Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Goals Are For Losers

While setting goals is pivotal to get you a reliable shot at success, it’s also wildly overrated.

Everyone and their dog both know about goals. Yet hardly anyone succeeds to achieve them.

Take New Year’s resolutions. 

The majority of people abandon their aspirations to lose weight and get healthy before the end of January. A study by Scranton University shows that less than 1 in 5 individuals follow through.

So based on the numbers, goals are for losers.

Where do the goal-oriented go wrong?

For starters, they think they need to go big and implement major changes. Changes that are too difficult to maintain in the long run.

Consider people who want to run a marathon and haphazardly put together a workout routine that involves running 5 kilometers per day. Doable in theory. But totally unrealistic if you’re the type of person who chooses an escalator over the stairs.

The next problem is tunnel vision.

As you evaluate your progress, it becomes painfully obvious that you haven’t achieved your goal. So the majority of feedback is negative.

In other words, you succeed for a moment and fail for an eternity. If you don’t shift attention to your growth, you’ll lose motivation and give up.

The biggest goal-setting blunder of all?

Not creating a fool-proof system. 

It’s not enough to vow to lose weight and throw together a routine that’ll burn the fat off your love handles.

Unless you’re a machine, efficacy is not enough.

More than anything, you want a routine that’s easy to follow so you can work towards your goal every day. Even when you’re not in the mood.

Sure, it may not get you to your goal the quickest. But it’s easy enough to stick so that you’ll eventually make it.

In fact, you’ll enjoy reaching your target because every day you use your system is another step closer to greatness. Another small win.

Racking up wins feels incredible and keeps you motivated.

The key takeaway?

Focus on easy everyday practices that get you closer to where and who you want to be. After all, goals are for losers.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach