Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

It’s The Little Things

A young stockbroker who’s elbowing his way to the top, is asked why he wants to become rich. And even though his reply makes no sense, many people don’t see the wacky.

“I think if I can make a bundle of cash before I’m 30 and get out of this racket” he answers, “I’ll be able to ride my motorcycle across China.”

You don’t need to be rich to take your hog through China.

You can also pay for your trip by working a few months as a bat guano collector, worm dung farmer or roadkill cleaner.

Most of us overestimate the importance of money. We see it as the road to happiness. 

But there are other routes to happiness that are far more reliable.

Let’s return to the dream of our stockbroker.

He believes he has to save money before he can travel. 

But you can also travel with zero money and get experiences even a billion dollars can’t buy.

We can catch another glimpse of happiness from a friend of mine, who has had the same morning ritual for years:

She gets out of bed, turns on the coffee machine and stumbles into the bathroom.

Let’s zoom in on one of her past mornings.

After spending the night with her boyfriend, she stepped out of bed and walked into the kitchen.

As she walked up to the machine on the counter, she saw a clean mug with two pods beside it.

A loving gesture that said, “I know you love your morning coffee. So I made your day a bit easier.”


We live in a society where money is confused with wealth. But once you cross the poverty line, money is overrated.

If happiness is the goal, you may want to focus on a simpler life and filling it up with loved ones.

After all, it’s about the little things. And Walmart doesn’t sell those.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach