Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Living A Life Worth Living

As a species, we’ve finally mastered how to survive and are now figuring out how to thrive. Just living is no longer enough, we want adventure, excitement and recognition.

When we turn to our role models for guidance, we see movie stars, Olympic medalists, Nobel laureates, philanthropists, world leaders, musicians who dominate the music charts, and serial CEOs with larger fortunes than a small country.

They all inspire us to be heroic.

An admirable ambition. But in our obsession to follow in their footsteps, we often forget what it takes to get there.

Routine. Repetition. And sacrifice.

With each day so similar to the one before, you easily treat your time as a means to an end.

Although the result might be great, the journey is a blur.

And that doesn’t seem right.

As Annie Dillard wisely wrote in her book The Writing Life: “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”

So if you want adventure, perhaps it’s not so smart to confine yourself to becoming a specialist. It leads to a one-dimensional life.

Plus, people tend to be multifaceted. We’re not born with one talent, but with many. So if you have what it takes to be an astronaut, you may also be suited to become a first-rate bartender, programmer, or mechanic.

If your goal is to find meaning and respect, you’ll likely be fine going down multiple career paths.

And if you’re in pursuit of joy and contentment, there’s no better way to live than to be engaged and curious about everything you see and do.

Instead of scarfing down your sandwich over your keyboard so you can get right back to work on your next viral Tik Tok video, you may live a more enjoyable life if you didn’t bolt everything down in your schedule for maximum productivity.

After all, achievement isn’t synonymous with contentment. Devotion to your vision of what matters is. 

So if you want to feel good about yourself, figure out what’s important to you and stay committed to honouring your ethics every day.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach