Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Lost In Translation

We used to think that our perception works like a door through which reality can enter without being affected.

But now we think differently.

Today neuroscientists know that that our brains actively reconstruct reality.

Meaning that when reality enters your perception, your brain takes all of reality’s sensory input and reconstructs it in a way that’s best fit for your survival.

What we experience is not what there is. At least, not precisely.

The brain highlights and simplifies sensory input so that the significant things for survival stand out.

What we also know is that our brain’s process of reconstructing reality is not unique to us. It seems like most organisms with nervous systems experience their own version of reality. A reality which helps them thrive.

All this means is that our perception ignores certain things. The issue is figuring out what things our perception is ignoring. For that’s like a blind man trying to see.

And here’s where the brain throws us for a loop.

Because we don’t know what we are missing, our perception could be far from reality.

To put it in terms of an image, think of the apps on your smartphone. As you use any of your apps, you will only see a simplified interface. But that interface doesn’t represent what’s actually going on beneath the surface. Beneath the surface lies a complex arrangement of instructions and programming jargon that does all the work. But because it doesn’t help you, the complex is purposely left out.

Perhaps, in the same way, we are only seeing a superficial level of reality.

What do you think?

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach