Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Making The Best Of Shitty Decisions

Sometimes we’re forced to make unfair decisions that have no good outcomes. At least, not from the outset.

And unless you’re one of those ‘everything happens for a reason’ types, it helps to know how to move on.

  1. Embrace that it’s happening, no matter how much it hurts or how unfair it is. If time is of the essence, save the lamenting for later.
  2. Ignore the sunk costs. All the resources and time you spent to get here should not affect your decision if cutting your losses is the best option you have.
  3. Limit your options. The more options you have, the more you need to consider. If possible, reduce your options to five or fewer to speed up your decision-making.
  4. Accept that it won’t feel good. None of your options are what you want or deserve. That’s okay. Bad and uncomfortable is all you got. 
  5. Don’t look back. Even if all options feel equally shitty, fully commit to the one you choose. If you can’t predict what will work out the best, don’t even try. Pick the one that aligns with your values the most and tell yourself it’s the right choice.
By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach