Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Success Is Not An Equation

Ninety percent of what separates the successful from the unsuccessful is time, effort, and stamina. The other ten percent?


The system is rigged against you. Will Smith telling you to chase your dreams is like a lottery winner saying, “Sell your assets, buy Powerball tickets, it works.”

But it doesn’t. Not necessarily.

Is your only goal to be discovered? Then your best bet for success may be to take a deep breath and give up.


Because making it big is never a guarantee—the world is filled with talented failures. And if you can’t embrace the risk of failure, you’re better off becoming an electrician or plumber.

The only time you should commit to chasing your dreams is if you feel fine knowing that all your hard work won’t pay off. If you feel fine knowing your work won’t receive the recognition it deserves. And if you feel fine not getting any reward besides the satisfaction of the work.

If not getting any success gives you the feeling that you wasted your time, it’s not for you. Because there’s always the chance you’ll go to your grave screaming, “I’m a great writer, read my script!”

Success isn’t an equation. It’s luck. And if you’re not cool with that cosmic chance, don’t do it.

P.S. That Powerball joke? Shamelessly stolen from the hilarious comic, Bo Burnham. If you don’t know him, check out his specials on Netflix. He’s a hoot.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach