Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

The Lie Of Success

The Academy Awards are great, but not because you get to see who gets the Oscar.

With just 45 seconds, many actors use their acceptance speech to tackle hot-button issues about politics, climate change and gender equality. Other celebrities reveal the secret to their success. And it’s always the same:

“Never give up on your dreams,” or “If you can dream it, you can do it!”

Have these people never watched Idols?

People burst into the audition room filled with hopes of making it big. And within seconds these poor souls get told they have no shred of talent.

Just because you’re passionate doesn’t mean you won’t suck.

What’s more, if you believe you’ve found your passion, you’re less likely to explore other career paths. Turning you into a one-trick pony.

Yet the world increasingly wants professionals who can bridge the gap between different fields of work.

Following your passion implies an easy path to success and overly narrows your focus.

If you’re serious about earning a good living, focus on your strengths first and doing work that matters second.

Don’t worry if your talents and passions don’t align. Here’s the real secret:

Once you’re good at what you do, you don’t want to quit. You’re growing, putting out fires and making people smile. Passion comes out of doing meaningful work, not the other way round.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach