Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

What To Do When Everything Feels Too Much

Many books and guides on productivity are largely rubbish. Not because they’re bad, but because they rarely help you when you most need it.

If life is good, we usually have no need for tips to get things done quicker. Our output feels fine.

And when our output is non-existent?

Then we’re too glum and weak to adopt a new routine of productivity hacks and tricks. It simply feels impossible.

In these moments, the turmoil in our heads is already enough to make us loopy. Adding anything to our to-do list will only serve to push us over the edge.

So what do you do in these moments of weakness? After all, the show must go on.

You treat it like any other situation of overwhelm: you do the easiest thing that gets you closer to where you want to be.

This means that the one thing you choose to do, can be completely disconnected from the intimidating project that you tell yourself you ought to be doing.

Are you paralysed underneath the weight of an important deadline? Forget about it.

What’s something in your life that you can do right now that needs fixing?

Do that.

Then fix something else that you wouldn’t mind doing. Finished? Find something else to do.

Repeat this process for as long as you like.

Maybe you’ll eventually get around to doing the big scary thing. Maybe not. That’s beside the point.

The point is that you got yourself moving towards a better place when you felt that you couldn’t.

That’s incredibly empowering. It proves that you are far stronger than you gave yourself credit for.

Plus, you now have a small glimpse of a timeless truth.

You can never do more than the one small thing you’re working on. 

Some days that small thing may be writing one chapter of your new novel. On other days, that small thing may be writing just one sentence.

The size of the action depends on how you feel.

Just don’t belittle the small stuff. It all counts.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach