Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Hierarchies Aren’t That Bad

No bee flies out of the hive in the morning to collect pollen and goes, “Why doesn’t the queen do this? I should be the boss.” No. Bees don’t make a fuss. 

Whether it’s making honey, watching the door, or cleaning the hive, the bee just does his job.  

But not people. When someone has it better than us we complain and try to get our way.

There’s just something about inequality that really bugs us. But is the alternative any better?

Giving everyone the same paycheck seems like a pretty good idea. But once you start making everything fair and equal, things start to get a little hairy.

Take, looks. We would all probably want an upgrade. Better cheekbones, a fuller head of hair, a few inches less or more in the right places. But if we have to go even-steven across the board, we’ll all look the same.

In fact, if we had to redistribute the beauty of our world’s best lookers, we’d all probably end up looking rather homely.

Is that progress?

Let’s take another subject of great envy, talent. How often do you open up YouTube and see someone so incredibly gifted that it makes your head spin?

Consider it equalized. 

The world’s best just gave everyone some of their talent. Now none of us can dunk a basketball or sing in tune. 

A world of equals doesn’t really seem like a nice place to live. So let’s not try and make it a reality.

Instead, let’s round up the geniuses and make them work for us. That way we can all hold onto what makes us special, even if that means doing a little worse than our more gifted counterparts.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach