Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Career Advice You Want To Reject

Today we have access to almost as much career advice as the internet has cat videos. Great, except that many of the career tips don’t work and potentially do more harm than good.

A motivational quote that’s plastered all over Facebook and Instagram says to let your achievements speak for themselves.

Catchy. But terrible career advice.

Yes, it’d be wonderful if your value in the marketplace was dictated by your expertise and skill. The world, however, works differently.

Without charisma, confidence and connections, your competence likely won’t get you very far.

Add a little showmanship to the mix, however, and you likely will.

Faking it until you make it may seem shady, but it seems to be an incredibly effective way to rise through the ranks. Not only does being assertive and proactive earn you more respect, dressing like someone with authority actually improves your performance.

So acting as if you’re competent doesn’t just fool others, it also fools yourself.

All this goes to show that the biggest driver of success isn’t skill, it’s other people’s perception of your skill.

The better people think you are, the more valued you’ll be.

Charisma and a good reputation obviously won’t make up for a lack of proficiency. Unless you’re Leonardo DiCaprio, you won’t be able to fake your way into becoming an airline pilot or a doctor. Every job requires a minimum level of know-how.

If you don’t know your stuff, you won’t get the job. Even if you are a silver-tongued devil.

Do you feel like your abilities and work ethic ought to speak louder than your personality?

Then let me see if I can sell you on the importance of reputation one last time before you lock yourself up in your office and burn the midnight oil.

Vincent van Gogh, Franz Schubert, William Blake, Edgar Allan Poe, and Johannes Vermeer all died penniless because they ignored business politics and self promotion.

Work in silence and you will die poor. Get your work in front of decision makers and you may do well.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach