Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Contentment Might Be Good Enough

Any time you turn on your TV or open your Instagram feed, you’ll see someone having more fun than you. You won’t ever see a video of a dude sitting on a couch fishing nacho crumbs out of their belly hole.

It’s always someone doing cool shit.

Always something impressive.

For some people that’s motivational. It gives them a target to aim at. For others, seeing someone young and talented excel at life just completely ruins their day.

And that’s the snag.

The content we see on social media teaches us that a good life is built around tropical beaches, beauty, achievement, talent, and riches.

Lives that most of us are very much not living.

And likely never will.

Besides making us feel bad, these videos can make us doubt our life choices and think we’re doing it all wrong.

Suddenly we’re questioning everything. 

Our careers, our place of residence, our hobbies, our romantic relationships, and our frivolous usage of free time. 

A few silly videos can prompt us to scrutinise our entire lives. 

And that’s a worthwhile endeavor. As long as it doesn’t send you into despair.

Because then you’re making the classic human mistake: thinking that there’s a way of life that’ll make you immune to doubt and adversity.

But that’s a fantasy.

The rich, famous, and adventurous are often just as miserable as you. They argue with their partners, they go through health crises, they fail at things, they let down friends, and they sometimes struggle with feelings of loneliness.

The only two big differences between you and the people on TV is that their lives are more interesting to watch, and they stay in hostels and tents for fun. But that’s just appearances.

Everyone gets smacked around by life.

So if you’re ever wondering if there are better ways to live your life—sunnier places to go, faster cars to drive, cooler skills to gain, better jobs to do, and better partners to love. Remember that there’s no guarantee. 

And the search will likely be never-ending.

In fact, with all that searching and finding, you may never get to enjoy yourself afterward. 

It’s okay not to try everything. Sometimes it’s better to forget perfection and choose what’s good enough.

At least you’ll be content.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach