Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Dealing With Bad Days

When was the last time your day went by exactly as hoped? Woke up full of energy and with a clear head, morning coffee just right, no sudden work emergencies, family and friends doing great, workout and other personal targets met with ease, and nothing but positivity from your human and non-human housemates.

If you’re anything like me, this has happened to you about five times in your entire adult life.

All the other times, your day either got disturbed, or life was busy scheming to disturb some day in the future.

That’s why we need tools to deal with imperfection.

Otherwise, you’ll spend many of your waking hours feeling defeated, pissed off, or dead inside. 

So where do you start?

With the next best thing. 

When you have a whole day ahead of you filled with work, chores and appointments, and every of your favourite productivity tools is falling short—look for the best thing you can do right now.

That could be tackling your most important work project, but it could also be rolling out of bed to go and brush your teeth.

Do whatever you can muster.

Took on too big of a job? Pull the ripcord and go for something easier.

Perhaps take a quick break and do a breathing exercise, go for a walk, journal, or just stare out the window for a few minutes.

Then get back to it. And work your way up until you’ve crossed the most important task off your list.

Bad days don’t have to be a loss, as long as you show yourself enough kindness and patience to get by.

So do a Tami Terrell and put your arms open wide, throw away your pride, and focus on one step at a time.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach