Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Finding Passion Isn’t About Searching

A few years ago, gluten free diets were all the rage. Last year, it was microdosing magic mushrooms. Today, it’s all about dopamine fasting: cutting yourself off from almost all stimulation.

You’re forbidden to use the internet, you can’t watch TV or listen to music, eating or drinking anything besides water is off limits, and you’re not allowed to doodle your noodle. Why? To reboot the brain and regain focus of what matters.

Like most health fads, it’s complete baloney. But that doesn’t stop the wellness trade from being a booming billion dollar industry.

What once started as a safe way to bring people joy, has become a buffet of sugar pills that can allegedly fight off all the downsides of modern living. Whether that be fatigue, anxiety, muscle pains, or a saggy fanny.

Just because an army of con artists are trying to sell you snake oil, doesn’t mean wellness is a hoax. Wellness was a scientific term invented in the ‘50s that encompassed all the ways someone could maximize his or her quality of life

To reach your peak of being, scientists say that you must care for your 8 dimensions of wellness. None of which demand that you do intermittent fasting, douse your skin in essential oils, or sleep in warrior position.

Wellness is about basic daily habits and practices. Which is obviously difficult to sell, and so rarely pitched to the masses.

Where do you begin?

Move your body every day. Countless studies show daily exercise lowers your risk for all kinds of diseases.

Unless you have allergies, forget diets. Just eat food, not too much, and limit junk.

Nothing you don’t already know, right? So let me throw you a curveball.

If you don’t have a passion, don’t try to find it. It’s a ruse. Although many people believe they’re born as specialists who will seamlessly fit into their fated career slot, science says otherwise

It’s rare to find a line of work and instantly fall in love with it. What usually happens, is that passion follows competence, not the other way round.

Which makes perfect sense when you consider half of today’s job didn’t exist even 50 years ago. At least, I hope that’s the type of sense the universe follows. If not, what a cruel joke it must have been for a Python programmer to be born in the stone age.

And what about the most mind-numbing jobs? No one grows up feeling, “I’m passionate about tax law.” You become passionate about tax law when the money and accolades start pouring in. 

Find a career that fits your lifestyle, put in the hours to get competent, and your passion will follow.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach