Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

It’s Healthy To Waste Time

Our culture is obsessed with productivity. We admire people who achieve greatness through hard work and perseverance. We ask people we just met what they do for a living. And we don’t feel too hot when someone younger is ahead of us.

Why do these behaviours and reactions feel so normal?

Because we’ve learned to connect our self-worth to our achievements and work ethic. 

That’s why so many of us struggle to relax and unwind. Lazying around doesn’t lead to accomplishments. And to be without accomplishments is the greatest sin of all. 

At least, that’s how it feels to many of us.

It’s not a fluke that the amount of overworked, burned-out and sick people are on the rise. I bet you know a few people who could use a break too. And with remote work blurring the lines between private and professional life, it’s only getting worse.

Pushing ourselves to the brink of collapse is obviously unsustainable. But even when we find ourselves slumped on the couch at night with no energy but to stare at our phones, we find it incredibly difficult to slow down. 

The fear of letting time slip by without anything worthwhile in return gives us the willies.

Which begs the question: is being productive the only thing worth doing?

Of course not. We all know that. It just sometimes slips our minds when we watch super heroes save the world from evil against all odds. When we see TikTok videos of kids flexing on us with their otherworldly talents. Or when we watch Forrest Gump achieve more than we could dream of by accident.

We all want to be someone. We all want to feel special. 

That’s why so many of us keep going when we can’t, we can picture ourselves at the top and we’ll sacrifice our health to get there.

But we don’t need to. If you’re set on making something of yourself, your body will warn you when you go too far. You’ll feel tired, unmotivated and unfocused. 

Simple stuff.

But if stepping away from the production line sends you into a panic, you’ll ignore the signals and likely end up in trouble. After all, you probably don’t have a team of people to support you like the world’s finest.

So do yourself a favour and listen to your body. Taking a break is essential to stay in good health. Plus, it’ll give you time to do the things that life’s really about anyway.

Waste some time already, will ya?

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach