Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Managing The Start Of Your Career

You’ve finished school, you’ve got your diplomas, and now you have to make a choice: what will you do for a living?

For some, this is easy. Just commit to your calling.

But not everyone knows what their calling is, while others don’t understand what a calling has to do with work.

So it’s a very personal problem.

But whether you’re after money or meaning, the choice remains the same: will you settle for the first opportunity that comes your way, or will you explore different paths in hopes of finding something better?

Luckily, you don’t have to commit to either option. You can do a bit of both. Experiment.

Treat your career like a paleontologist treats a bone sticking out of the dirt. Examine what you’re looking at before you commit and tunnel a hole you can’t get out of.

Easier said than done. How much should you explore before you dig in? After all, you have to start somewhere.

The average American 20-something-year-old changes jobs about every three years without ill effects. In fact, early career shifts seem common across many cultures. 

Before he became the head of the Catholic Church, Pope Francis worked at a nightclub. British Prime Minister Tony Blair told bad jokes in dingy comedy clubs. And before Austrian Chancellor Franz Vranizky got into politics, he used to be a professional basketball player.

So picking a lane doesn’t mean you’ll stay put. 

That largely depends on how much you like your job, how many doors it can open in the future, and your appetite for adventure.

Each job ultimately gives you a better idea of who you are.

So even if you hate it, that’s still a win. You’re now a little bit closer to knowing what you want.

Just be sure to manage your expectations along the way. 

Your number one goal isn’t to find a career to make you happy, it’s to find a career that doesn’t make you miserable. Happiness is your responsibility.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach