Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Romantic Time Management

The internet makes us painfully aware of all the awesome things that are worth doing. The trouble is that the supply of awesome is virtually infinite. While our time on this earth is anything but.

How do you fit all that awesomeness into one lifetime?

You can’t.

That’s partly why cramming our lives with fun activities doesn’t quite hit the spot. We’re still left wanting more.

Probably because the more special experiences you take in, the more special experiences you feel like you can have. Or should have. 

But you can’t have them all. There are always more fun things to do than anyone could possibly sit in on. Mortality really is a bitch.

So how do you choose what to do?

Firstly, by getting real. Embrace that your lifetime is too short to fit everything into that you want.

You simply don’t have the hours.

And that’s okay.

In fact, that’s what gives meaning to every choice you make.   

Whenever you do anything fun (like playing football with friends), you’re passing on something else that matters too (like spending time with your partner). 

That’s not a loss. But a beautiful constraint. The very notion that you could have been doing something else imbues your choice with meaning.

That’s why marriage feels so meaningful. Out of all the people in the world, you picked one person to spend the rest of your life with, without really knowing if that somebody is the very best for you.

So how can you ever know you’re making the right choice, whether it’s choosing your spouse or what to do with your life? 

Because you choose to make it great. It may not be the best choice if you had all the options and answers, but you decide for yourself that it is so.

Meaning isn’t found or given, it’s a choice.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach