Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Say Thank You

Here’s one of the most important pieces of advice you’ll ever get:

Write thank you notes.

It’s more than just good manners, it’s a way to show that you care. 

Despite being so small, they show a large amount of appreciation and will make someone’s day. 

Sure, you can send a text message. Better than nothing, of course. But you and the recipient both know that it’s a poor substitute for buying a card in a shop, writing on it by hand, and walking it to a mailbox or delivering it in person.

Everyone’s excited to open a handwritten letter.

The design of the card, the smell and feel of the paper, the interesting quirks of the handwriting. There’s nothing quite as special and warm as a handwritten note. 

It doesn’t even need to run longer than a sentence or two:

“Dear Stephanie, thank you so much for your support today. Your advice was invaluable. – Jeroen”

And just like that you’ve made a keepsake that your recipient can reread a hundred times over. Unlike an email, which is often read and forgotten.

So run to the shop for some note cards and a pen, and keep them with you wherever you go. You never know when someone will do something thoughtful that deserves a proper thank you.

And remember, it’s not the thought that counts, but the effort you put in. People don’t forget.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach