Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Turning A Blind Eye

Consciousness is a limited form of attention.

Using memory as an example, the number of ideas you can keep track of is capped. If you go beyond your limit, you will fail. You can juggle several thoughts at once, but only if they are easy to manage. Meaning when your ceiling is reached, you effectively become blind.

Therefore consciousness is also a form of ignorance. And it leaves out things of great importance.

While certain events might go unseen by us, they can’t hide from the ever observing instinct. “The instinct works automatically and quickly, with little to no sense of voluntary control.”*

Which suggests that if you can get your conscious awareness out of the way, your instinct will help you recall exactly what you overlooked.

If consciousness is the crown jewel of our being, the instinct is our king.


* Loosely quoted from Daniel Kahneman’s hugely insightful, Thinking, Fast and Slow.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach