Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

What To Do If You Don’t Have A Purpose Or Passion

Deciding what to do after you finish school feels similar to choosing a major. But instead of a few years on a dingy campus your purpose will last you a lifetime

So the pressure to choose your purpose is intense.

And if you don’t know by your thirties, well golly, you’re in trouble. 



Who decided purpose or passion was the ultimate benchmark for a successful life and career?

It’s not. Mainly because our sense of passion shifts all the time.

You probably have an attic or closet filled with forgotten passions. Your old rollerblades, a dusty guitar, the entire For Dummies series and your bowflex.

If you don’t know what one thing you’re passionate about, that’s because you’re not supposed to. 

Nobody is made to do one thing. If a spork can be great at two things, so can you.

So how do you decide what to do with your future?

Well, since you aren’t born with a single purpose, you also can’t pick a career path that leads to the wrong future.

Every path is right because it shows you what you do and don’t like.

And odds are you’ll be drawn to what you’re good at and what leads to a better lifestyle .

If a recycling gig can get you out of your mom’s basement, you’ll likely find yourself at a job interview pretending to be passionate about plastic. 

Don’t plan and agonize about your life. Just live life and commit to every choice that you think will make things better.

Does that lead to a career in picking up garbage? Then be the best garbage person you can be. 

Who cares if your career isn’t prestigious. What’s important is that your current job enriches your life more than the one before it.

There’s nothing wrong with you if you can’t say what you’re passionate about. 

That’s normal. To say you know exactly why you were put on this earth, that’s crazy.

So don’t look for work you love, love the work you do until you find something better.

P.S. If you can’t find a job, find a hobby and pour all your energy into it. Nothing bad comes out of giving your best at what’s in front of you. In fact, you’ll likely come out of the experience feeling better than when you started because you’ll have a better idea of which way is forward.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach