Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Worried You’re Going Too Fast?

Wouldn’t it be great if you could navigate your love life so that you’d never fall for the wrong person again? To gain the ability to recognise someone who’s actually good for you?

That’s called expertise.

And not everybody is a fan.

After all, expertise goes hand in hand with analysis. An expert can’t make the right choice without reviewing every move first.

So when you apply expertise to love, you almost turn it into a job. Instead of enjoying the love and attention of your new heartthrob, you’re worrying about making it work.

If followed blindly, rules and principles suffocate romance. 

Can you imagine being into someone who’s crazy about you, but then holding back because the latest issue of Elle or some hokey influencer told you that your excitement might scare them off?

It’d almost be hilarious if it wasn’t so common and painful.

So what’s the value of dating expertise?

It gives you the know-how to actually get the relationships that you want and make them more fun. Something that your heart alone can’t do.

Because what does the heart want once it’s struck by Cupid’s arrow? 

To never leave the side of your new love. Wonderful. But also harmful to the relationship in the long run. 

After all, if all your time is spent with your partner, you stop spending time on yourself. Now you’re no longer the person that they fell in love with. 

Common sense to the expert. Malarkey to the heart.

So if you’re the type of person who throws themself at their new object of infatuation, you’re putting your heart in control of your love life.

And that’s fine. 

As long as your heart isn’t afraid to take directions from an expert.

Passion and love will get you moving. A little analysis will send you the right way.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach