Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

You’re Not Compassionate Until You Do this

We all want to feel good about yourselves. That’s why we tend to magnify our good deeds and ignore or excuse all our not-so-good deeds. It reinforces our story of being a virtuous person.

Of course, anyone who knows you well enough will see you for who you really are and pick up on all the ugly stuff you do.

That’s why so many of us work incredibly hard to become aware of our blind spots. We want to be better people.

But in our pursuit to become better colleagues, friends, and partners, we often overlook one crucial thing.


If you don’t show kindness, patience, and compassion to yourself, your growth is incomplete. Because no matter how hard you try, you’ll always make mistakes and do things you’re not proud of.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach