Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

A Popular Misunderstanding Of Time

You undoubtedly understand that it’s silly to want something if you’re not willing to do what it takes to get it. Being envious of your friend who speaks three different languages without having the willingness to open a French dictionary is ridiculous.

It just leads to disappointment.

But the opposite is also true.

If you crave the lifestyle and its accompanying results, but can’t make room for the work, you’ll also be sorely let down. 

A realisation most of us see when it comes to dating and relationships—we all know not to chase someone who’s bad for us—but it’s something we often overlook in regards to hobbies, passion projects, and self-care rituals.

Who doesn’t have an attic, closet, or cupboard filled with relics from hobbies and interests that we still can’t give up on?

Yes, it’s dumb to want something that you don’t care to sink time into. But it’s equally stupid to desire a way of life that you can’t even maintain if someone held a gun to your head. 

Your time on this earth is limited.

Rather than trying to cram as many cool things into your days as possible, it’s best to do less and focus on the few things that you care about most.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach