Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Be Suspicious Of Simplicity

Almost everyone has a soapbox nowadays and is handing out free advice. *Laughs nervously* While much of the advice is good, much of it is also bad. Not necessarily because it’s wrong, but because it’s only showing a fraction of the entire picture.

And it’s not always the content creator’s fault. 

Firstly, audiences don’t have the time and attention to become experts. Most people just want a basic understanding of something. Or they want to look at some colourful moving images as they pop a squat over their porcelain throne.

Secondly, truly knowing anything is close to impossible. Take physics. For decades, astrophysicists had all sorts of models that gave them an idea of how large the universe supposedly was, but they had almost no evidence to back up those claims. Until 2017 almost 90% of the universe was unaccounted for. 

Can you imagine losing 90+ billion light-years of space? That’s a pretty serious problem.

And yet it’s an incredibly common problem across all fields.

Our understanding of most things is paper thin. We’ve caught a few glimpses of the truth here and there, but most of it is shrouded in a tremendous amount of darkness.

This uncertainty is something you want to keep in mind as you take on advice from people on the internet. Even the smartest people have only the slightest idea of what’s going on. Otherwise, we’d all be living the dream by now, right?

Enjoy your ignorance, it’s what makes learning so much fun. 

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach