Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Don’t Be A Donkey

A starved donkey somehow finds himself between two equally big and delicious bale of hay. He looks from one bale to the other and notices a problem.

“I have no reason to pick one over the other,” thinks the donkey.

So with a grumbling belly, the ass mulls it over. And over. And over.

But no matter how long the donkey racks his brain, he can’t decide which bale to eat first.

So he eventually falls over and dies.

People aren’t that different from donkeys.

We also often want to go down multiple directions at once. 

And, of course, we can’t.

We deal with that impossibility in largely three ways.

Some stay at the crossroads, gazing into every direction, looking for a sign to kick them into action.

Others simply pick a path and never look back. 

And a special breed walks down a road for a decade, returns to the intersection with a backpack full of know-how, and then heads down another road.

Don’t think you need to follow all your passions at the same time. It can’t be done.

But chasing one passion after another, can be done.

As Derek Sivers says in Hell Yeah Or No, the key is to think long term.

Simply focus on one interest without distraction until you’re finished.

The kicker? You already do this on a daily basis.

Every workday you get assignments with a deadline. And while you may get the urge to slack off, you put it out of your mind so you can properly slack off later.

Treat your years the same way you do your days: focus on one task, your passion, until you’re done.

Only after you scratch it off your to-do-list do you move on.

Don’t be shortsighted. Don’t be a donkey.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach