Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Good Taste Is Not Subjective

Many people are apprehensive about calling out others for having bad taste or patting themselves on the back for having good taste. We generally prefer to think anything goes.

But that’s a lie. And we all know it.

We simply say that things are ‘a matter of taste’ because we don’t want to rub anyone the wrong way. But every single healthy adult on the planet can recognise if someone is a good or bad dresser in the blink of an eye.

Bad taste is about as easy to ignore as a stinky litterbox in a New York apartment. It almost makes your eyes burn.

And that’s because we can feel the disharmony. A home shouldn’t smell like a toilet.

This sense of disharmony lies at the core of all forms of bad taste.

Whether it’s a gaudy diamond watch, an overworked painting, or a grandiose office building in a residential area, you can sense that it’s hugely lacking in one department and hugely overcompensating in another. 

The balance is all out of wack.

This is also the reason why good classical music feels so gripping, despite an entire orchestra of competing instruments, all the sounds slot together so well that it feels like you’ve come home. 

It’s achieved perfect harmony. 

All the best works in the world have. That’s also precisely how you develop good taste, you immerse yourself in the best the world has to offer.

It’s not a coincidence that those who work in art have better looking homes and wardrobes than those who don’t. 

If you’re intimately familiar with the best, it has a tendency to rub off.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach