Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

If You Could Do The Thinking That’d Be Great

Nature has certain regularities. If a pattern frequently repeats itself we may speak of a principle or law. One recurrence we have found is the ‘law of least effort.’

That rule says if something can be done in several ways, the least demanding approach will be taken.

If we are also governed by that principle, it suggests we are all inherently lazy. Which explains a great deal about our way of thinking. Because it seems like we have made a deal with our intuition: “If you do all the boring stuff, I’ll take over when it gets difficult or interesting.”

As we kick back, our instinct is constantly keeping us informed about what’s going on:

“It’s chilly, put something on.”
“That looks unfamiliar, watch out.”
“Somebody just called your name, pay attention.”

Because it’s so good at what it does, we rarely have to step in.

As the trust in your instinct grows you almost forget it’s there. Body and mind become one and you can hardly, if at all, distinguish your subconscious thinking from your own.

If you feel this to be true, do not make the mistake of considering yourself an independent thinker. While you can theoretically have the final say, most of you is run automatically.

And for those who feel to be an autonomous thinker, I ask you: where do your subconscious thoughts end and your voluntary thoughts start?

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach