Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Lawrence His Trick

As long as we have existed, we have resented suffering and looked for ways to free ourselves from it.

One of those ways is asceticism: if the problem is suffering, let us dive right into it.

By diving into suffering it is hoped that the fear of suffering will decrease until there is nothing left to be feared.

Reducing suffering to a plain vibration, as if it were a gentle breeze.

Wouldn’t that be nice?

Many of our most revered historical figures, indeed, share ascetic traits.

They would dedicate themselves to poverty, humility and chastity in order to better serve the greater good.

Asceticism, thus, requires a certain indifference and hostility to yourself.

For you must become indifferent to the sensations of the body and ignore its pleas for attention.

If you can do that, you have figured out a way to wrest away control from the body.

Actions the body warns you against—being a fool, speaking in front of crowds, putting a match out with your finger—have become available to you.

Now there is pleasure in pain and suffering.

Making the ascetic seem barmy.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach