Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Letting The Cat Out Of The Bag

The largest movement of forgetting ourselves comes from the East in the form of mysticism.

And it goes by many different names.

In hindu ‘moksha,’ in buddhism ‘nirvana,’ and in zen ‘satori.’

They all are different words for the same thing—enlightenment.

(Although each school is likely to claim that their term describes a different state of being. And they, indeed, have their subtle differences.)

And while their exact methods differ, they generally involve eliminating habitual mental chatter.

Under the pretense that by clearing the clouds of your mind, one can look into one’s true self and finally become it.

As if something as trivial as tidying your thoughts will lead to forgetting or getting rid of your old self.

Spoiler: it does not.

But it does give you a glimpse of what you are.

And it is enough to set one apart from the uninformed.

For the uninformed still see themselves as different from the total organism.

That view gives the uninformed an insatiable desire to be freed of the distractions of the body.

But the informed are not estranged from their bodies and emotions.

That sense of unity frees up energy that the uninformed spend in self-frustration.

There is no such thing as permanently forgetting yourself, only self-acceptance.

Now you must figure out what your self is.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach