Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Mediocrity Is Better Than Okay

Everyone wants to shine bright and be extraordinary. Stop that. You’re setting yourself up for disaster.

You don’t need to write bestsellers, perform on stage, be the boss, or raise skyscrapers to be happy and respected. In fact, the highest achievers are often the most unhappy. These workaholics plod away so relentlessly at their goals precisely because they do not feel worthy of love and admiration without these accomplishments.

And to make it all worse, success comes with great sacrifice. You don’t become the best without giving up on close and intimate relationships with others.

But you rarely hear about that.

Instead, our Western culture reveres the loud and exceptional and condemns the quiet and mediocre. Somehow, we believe that an obscure person has failed at life and that the only people that really matter are those who’ve been in the spotlight and tasted success.

But isn’t it much more remarkable to bring good energy to a shitty job? To be a reliable and kind friend? To raise a child without trauma? To be in a loving relationship with someone for decades who you still enjoy sleeping with? And to go through the hardships of life without becoming a bitter and angry cynic?

These may not be epic tales of scientists fighting off disease or heroes slaying 9-headed hydras, but they are equally admirable. 

Leading a good mundane and everyday life is truly exceptional.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach