Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Screw Goals, Choose Systems

Goal setting is wildly overrated. Just pay attention to how many people who take on New Year’s resolutions actually achieve them.

Not many.

According to a study done by Scranton University, about 1 in 5 individuals follow through.

Pretty poor odds.

Where do the goal-oriented go wrong?

They’re likely to bite off more than they can chew. Such as trying to cram in 10,000 steps a day. Remember that fad?

Not many people could keep it up. Hardly surprising, it’s close to 8 kilometres. So along with all the other stuff you want to do with your time, 1.5 hours of it will be eaten up by walking through the same mother-trucking neighbourhood.

Every. Day.

Consistently failing to achieve your daily goals is crushing. And if it’s unreasonably difficult to complete them, achieving your starry-eyed objectives is likely to make you more sad than happy.

That’s why you want to swap out your goals for something better.

A system.

Systems get you closer to where you want to be, without telling you how much to do. That’s up to you.

Every day you run your system is another step in the right direction. Another small win. 

Rack up enough wins and you’ll eventually reach your destination.

That means any time you run your system, you can feel good about yourself.

Screw goals, choose systems.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach