Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

We’re Wired To Be Prizefighters

The filmmaker wants to make a splash at the Cannes Film Festival.

The journalist dreams of working for the Wall Street Journal.

And the novelist is gunning for the Man Booker Prize.

Many of us don’t want to tussle in arenas where the pickings are slim. But when we see everyone else get in line, we tag along.

Following the pack feels right. It feels safe.

But that sense of safety is a mistake. Hiding in the herd is actually dangerous.

After all, if you enter a jam-packed competition looking to bring back the trophy, you have to stand out. Only the best win.

And if all you want to do is hide, you’ll never get more than a participation ribbon.

If you truly want to bring home the gold, you can do two things.

One, rise to the top and become the Michael Phelps of your arena.

Two, ignore the huddling crowd and build a new arena.

Whichever path you choose, you won’t get far without sticking your neck out.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach