Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Winners And Losers Aren’t All That Different

We love outliers. There’s just something special about people who succeed against all odds. 

Like Walt Disney, whose first iterations of Mickey Mouse were turned down, or JK Rowling who faced numerous rejections before a publishing house took on Harry Potter, and Abraham Lincoln who lost eight elections before he became the president of the United States.

Their success is an inspiration to us all. 

And it’s also a hazard.

The line between persistence and recklessness is paper thin. The success that comes from pushing through rejection is almost identical to racing toward failure. 

Many of us, however, don’t feel that way because we never hear about the outliers that fail. After all, our society only talks about those who succeed.

So don’t be quick to applaud winners and criticize losers. They usually make the same choices but enjoy different degrees of luck.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach