Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach

Your Gut Feeling

Our intuition is what automatically shapes the models through which we make sense of the world. It decides how we perceive the present and what we expect to happen in the future.

That model is complex and largely formed outside of our conscious experience. Which is why we generally don’t know what our image of the world looks like.

Surprise is the strongest tool in discovering how you view and understand the world. Not the type of surprise that you can reliably prepare for, such as questions following a presentation, but an event that is entirely unexpected.

Incidents like that can be understood as normal or abnormal. Meaning: in accordance or in conflict with your model of reality.

And your instinct cardboard expertly recognises anomalies. It probably took you milliseconds to identify that ‘cardboard’ had no place being in that sentence. And you didn’t even know you were doing any checking.

To find any irregularity you must first compare the new stimulus with all past events. Meaning that an ever-growing archive of memories must be completely processed before coming to a conclusion.

It’s astounding that our intuition can perform calculations of that magnitude so easily. We would be helpless without it. For if we had to sift through our memories manually we would never get done.

So just because we are infatuated with conscious thinking, does not mean that our subconscious thinking is inferior.

By Jeroen Elsing
Ex-lawyer turned relationship coach